J-P spoke tonight about being positive, reminding us that positive minds produce positive lives. Jesus told the centurion who came to Him seeking a healing for his servant, “Go! Let it be done just as you believed it would.” (Matt 8:13) Great things can happen when we exercise faith, but so often, we let previous hurts and disappointments stop us from daring to hope and believe again. We insulate ourselves against future disappointment and avoid hope, often falling into the mentality that ‘nothing good will happen to me.‘ It is dangerous to think like this, for Prov 23:7 reminds us that as a man thinks in his heart, so he is. If we constantly think and speak along negative lines, then we will become negative people, but if we speak in agreement with God’s plan for our lives, we will see great things happen.

Even if we do not know God’s specific plan, we can rest in what we know of who God is. We can expect God to bring good from even the most difficult of circumstances. (Rom 8:28) Instead of focussing on the small things that might not go according to our plans, we can move forward with hope because we are new creations in Christ. (2 Cor 5:17) He has given us a fresh start (and continues to do so each day!) Moreover, God has given us the Holy Spirit as our helper and Phil 1:6 reminds us that we can have confidence not only in God’s plans but in the fact He always finishes what He starts.

A key aid to positivity is spending time in God’s word each day, as the Bereans did. (Acts 17:11) Daniel and his friends kept faith and praised God no matter what came against them, and God reminds us that hope is an anchor for our souls (Heb 6:19). Hope is that rudder which keeps us on a steady course. Because of God’s nature, we can have hope (‘Yet the Lord longs to be gracious to you; therefore he will rise up to show you compassion. For the Lord is a God of justice. Blessed are all who wait for him!’ (Is 30:18))

A positive mind will lead to positive speech (Ps 34:12-14) so that we can build ourselves and other people up. A cheerful heart is good medicine (Prov 17:22) and will lead us into encouragement. If we trust in God, we have every reason to be positive, no matter what the circumstances.

Ron Potter-Efron, author of “Angry All The Time”, says that anger is behind all hatred. He charts the path from anger to hate, saying that:

• initially we feel upset about something

• we blame someone else for causing this problem

• the problem is not resolved and so our anger escalates

• we lose our perspective, thinking about this issue all the time

• we resent the other person and dwell on what they did, believing that their actions were unforgivable

• our resentment turns to hate, like slowly hardening concrete

• our attitude towards the other person becomes rigid and unyielding

• nothing they say or do can make a difference to us

• hate provides the perfect excuse to stay angry

There is a lot of anger in our world nowadays over different issues (such as Brexit and the pandemic) and if we are not careful, this anger can lead to hatred, which tends to linger (sometimes families have been split for decades over various issues.) Forgiveness is the only way to break the cycle of hatred (see Matt 5:43-45). We have to want to forgive and will often have to work for it (reconciliation doesn’t just ‘happen’.)We must be prepared to pray and ask God for HIs help to forgive, to let go of the past and refuse to dwell on it and not judge the whole person because of one thing they have done. We must keep a sense of perspective, not turning a disappointment into a disaster. Hate will sour and poison our lives, preventing our growth and development, but as we allow God’s nature to grow within us, we will find the capacity and desire to forgive and to love as He does.

Garry continued to speak on the life of Joseph this morning, focussing on Gen 37:1-5. Joseph was the son of Jacob and Rachel and had eleven brothers and one sister; perhaps because he was born when Jacob was older and was the first child born to Rachel, his favourite wife, Joseph was Jacob’s favourite son. This led Jacob to give him a richly ornamented robe (the subject of the musical ‘Joseph and His Amazing Technicolour Dreamcoat’), a robe that signified his favour and which perhaps indicated his status (since it was long and therefore not fit for manual workers to wear.) Not surprisingly, this caused great envy and resentment amongst his brothers and this led to resentment – not toward Jacob (whose fault it was) but toward Joseph.

Family dynamics can be difficult at the best of times, and Jacob’s actions certainly did not make life easy for Joseph. We see here how jealousy, envy and resentment can lead to hatred, and how this can become a vicious cycle, leading us to do wrong. Anger in itself is not necessarily wrong; we see that God experiences anger (though He is slow to anger, not liable to throw hissy fits as we are!) and that Jesus too experienced anger (e.g. Mark 3:1-6) Our problem is that anger is difficult to control, and we are all too often angry when we are hurt, wounded, upset or jealous, rather than because something is wrong or unjust. James reminds us that human anger rarely produces the righteousness God wants (Js 1:20) and Paul warns us not to sin in our anger and not to let anger fester. (Eph 4:26) If we don’t deal with anger, it will lead us into a place of hatred which harms both us and those around us.

The way out is through forgiveness. Jesus is our ultimate example of this, for even on the cross, He forgave those who were guilty. (Luke 23:34) Joseph, too, ultimately becomes an example of forgiveness, refusing to allow his brothers’ hatred and actions against him to define who he is. Whether we are the one hating or the one who is hated, the answer to hatred is forgiveness. Love must fill our hearts so that we see people as individuals, rather than collectively stigmatising or belittling those who have hurt us (as is often the case during wartime, for it is easier to fight an enemy we can hate than to see people as vulnerable and capable of being wounded too.) Joseph leads the way out of hatred and gives us an example to follow.

Around Highgate this morning, the streets were eerily shrouded in mist:

How we need God’s light to shine so that the mists are driven away by the brilliance of His light: ‘For God, who said, “Let light shine out of darkness,” made his light shine in our hearts to give us the light of the knowledge of God’s glory displayed in the face of Christ.‘ (2 Cor 4:6)

I always love it when I discover the etymology of a word and today, as I am preparing for next week’s Bible study, I have discovered the origins of our word ‘to meander.’ This word means to wind or twist and is often used of a river, because it is named after the River Meander in Turkey, a river characterised by a very convoluted path along the lower reach. As a result, even in Classical Greece (and in later Greek thought) the name of the river had become a common noun meaning anything convoluted and winding, such as decorative patterns or speech and ideas, as well as the geomorphological feature.^[5] Strabo said: ‘…its course is so exceedingly winding that everything winding is called meandering.’^[6

You may not find this particularly exciting, but it reminds me that life can seem very meandering, full of twists and turns, apparent dead-ends and unseen obstacles. We tend to think life should proceed in a straight line, rather like one of the motorways through the Netherlands which (according to Garry) are very boring! Unfortunately for those of us that like neat straight lines, life is not like this and we can spend what seems to us to be a disproportionate amount of time meandering. Perhaps, though, we need to be prepared to take the scenic route more often?!

I love the Message version of 1 Timothy 2:1-3, urging us to pray: “The first thing I want you to do is pray. Pray every way you know how, for everyone you know. Pray especially for rulers and their governments to rule well so we can be quietly about our business of living simply, in humble contemplation. This is the way our Saviour God wants us to live.” This seems to me such a practical and all-comprehensive call to prayer. It takes us beyond ‘conventional’ prayer (eyes closed, hands together) and introduces us to all the different ways we can pray and also gives us such a broad scope of intercession. At this time when governments are having so much say in our daily lives and in many ways are dictating how we should live, the call to pray for those in authority over us is also very timely. As we pray, our eyes are taken off ourselves and our focus can be on God, who is all-powerful and whose purposes are never thwarted.

Having said that, it’s much easier to talk about prayer than it is to actually pray. This is why we are so keen to vary how we pray so as to actually engage in praying rather than mentally agreeing it’s important and then moving on without praying. Tomorrow (Saturday 7th November) we will still be doing our ‘Take Back The Streets’ prayer initiative. Praying while walking is a great way to pray. It means we pray with our eyes wide open and with hearts that ask God to bless real people in real locations. If you can’t walk around Goldthorpe tomorrow, you can pray while you shop wherever you are; if you can’t walk or get out at all, you can still pray between 10 and 11 a.m. tomorrow. We will be out walking and praying in Highgate at that time.

Then on Wednesday 11th November at 10.45 a.m., we will be holding our ‘Churches Together’ prayer meeting on the Dearne Churches Together Facebook page. We’ll be thinking about remembrance and looking at how we can pray using creativity. One thing I have been doing with my granddaughters this week is making poppies. We have made poppy cards looking at Philippians 1:3 (‘I thank my God every time I remember you’) to send to our friends and family since we can’t see them right now and we have also made craft poppies to give to people. These are all different ways we can pray, asking God to bless and help those we love and combining prayer with action, something that’s always useful to do.

Prayer needs to be ongoing, however, a daily conversation with God that’s not limited to set times but overspills into our daily living. It involves adoration, praise, thanksgiving, confession of sins, personal prayers and intercessions for others. Let’s commit ourselves to pray every way we know how for everyone we know, asking God to guide us as we pray.