Talking Point: Safeguarding Against Pornography
It’s important for us to understand that sex in itself is not sinful, but is in fact a gift of God. In its proper context, between a married man and woman, sex is something beautiful, a picture of the close relationship God longs to have with His people. But the Bible is clear that sex outside of marriage is a perversion of God’s original intention (outlined in Gen 2:21-25). Both sexual immorality (sex outside of marriage) and adultery are wrong (see Heb 13:4, 1 Cor 7:1-3), and Jesus made it clear that sexual immorality includes our thought lives (Matt 5:28).The matter of sexual purity obviously means that we must safeguard ourselves and our children against pornography, asking for God’s help in this battle for the mind and soul.
There is hope and forgiveness for all who have sinned in this way; no sin is outside the forgiveness of God. We do need to recognise the problem of pornography and seek to guard against it. Children and young people should not be left alone with unlimited access to the Internet; parents need to educate children about sex and this will include teaching about the dangers of pornography (however embarrassing this may be!) as well as setting boundaries (e.g. limiting Internet usage, using appropriate filters and so on.) Each Christian needs to seek to live holy lives before God; there has to be accountability and help given to those who struggle with this particular sin. Websites which offer further advice and help are:
The good news, however, is that the light of Jesus Christ shines in the darkness and the darkness has not overcome it. (Jn 1:5) He provides the way to be set free from all addictions and to be liberated from all bondage. We long for God to build His kingdom here, in us, setting us free from all chains and allowing His light to shine on us and through us so that all may know His glory and grace.
Talking Point: The Problem of Pornography
Pornography (printed or visual material containing the explicit description or display of sexual organs or activity, intended to stimulate sexual excitement) is a growing problem these days, exacerbated by the easy availability of porn videos via the Internet. Josh McDowell, a Christian author, says ‘The magnitude of porn in the world is beyond comprehension…The devastating impact of Internet pornography is a global phenomenon, and not one country or culture, or church in the world is isolated from its reach.’ (see here for more details.) The statistics regarding this industry (for the secular motivation behind pornography is often closely linked to its monetary value) are shocking: 6,311,390,400,000 porn videos watched per year, with 17,291,480,548 videos watched per day; one porn site reports 100 million pages viewed every day and the Huffington Post reports ‘porn sites get more visitors each month than Netflix, Amazon and Twitter combined.’ 24% of smartphone owners admit to having pornographic material on their mobile handsets and shockingly 9 out of 10 boys (and 6 0ut of 10 girls) are exposed to pornography before the age of 18, with 15% of boys and 9% of girls also having seen child pornography. It’s not surprising that young people consider it more ‘normal’ to send sexually explicit texts or photos via phones or that posting compromising photos and videos online is becoming an increasing problem.
Bishop Paul Laverde says ‘what was once the shameful and occasional vice of a few… has become the mainstream entertainment for the many.’ This is especially troublesome when we consider age, for whilst 88% of 18-24 year olds believe stealing is wrong and 71% think lying is wrong, only 32% believe pornography is wrong, with many believing recycling is ‘more immoral’ than pornography. Even more shocking is the fact that 22% of young adults believe porn is ‘good for society’.
Pornography is a perversion of the devil which rips sexuality from its relational context and presents human beings not as creatures made in God’s image but as sexual commodities – something to be bought and sold. Luke Gilkerson in ‘Your Brain on Porn’ says there are 5 main effects in individuals who habitually view pornography:
- Watching porn decreases sexual satisfaction because it trains us to desire the variety and ‘designer sex’ of porn more than the familiar sexuality of marriage
- Watching porn disconnects us from real relationships, training us to detach emotional involvement from sexual experience
- Watching porn lowers our view of women, training us to see women as sexual commodities
- Watching porn desensitises us to cruelty
- Watching porn is addictive, tapping into the neurocircuitry of our brains, maming us desire the rush of sexual energy from porn again and again
Clearly, pornography has harmful effects not only on individuals but also on families and on society. In 56% of divorce cases, one party having an obsessive interest in pornography websites was cited as contributing to the divorce; those who have committed adultery are 218% more likely to look at porn. The scale of the problem simply cannot be ignored.
Is that all you can say?!
Trusting God is at the heart of the gospel, but it often seems an irritatingly simplistic solution to complex problems. Ps 131 concludes with the words ‘Israel, put your hope in the Lord both now and forevermore.’ (Ps 131:3) Prov 3:5-6 tells us we must trust in the Lord with all our heart and learn not to put our weight on our own understanding. So often, however, we chafe at the passivity implied in trusting God.
The human tendency is to want to take things into our own hands and sort things out through our own ingenuity and skill. The Bible constantly warns us against this, showing us many examples of what happens when we do just that: Sarah and Abraham thinking God needed help in producing this promised son, coming up with the solution of Abraham sleeping with Hagar to hurry things along (Gen 16); Jacob plotting and scheming to get his birthright (Genesis 25); David plotting with Joab to cover up his adultery and thereby stooping to murder (2 Sam 11). What God requires is a child-like trust in Him all the time; trust is not something we start with and then discard as we progress. Jesus said, ‘unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven.’ (Matt 18:3) Don’t despise the simple things: trusting and hoping in God truly are the way to satisfaction and contentment.
Being Weaned
There comes a time in a baby’s life (usually around six months old) when milk is not enough to sustain growth and solid foods have to be gradually introduced. Food still has to be pureed, but this is the time when new tastes and textures can be introduced into a baby’s diet.
Not all babies respond well to this initially, often spitting out the new food at first because it’s unfamiliar. Gradually, however, all babies will move on from milk to solid food.
In the same way, Peter urges new Christians ‘like newborn babies, crave pure spiritual milk, so that by it you may grow up in your salvation’ (1 Pet 2:2), but this milk is not enough to sustain us throughout life. The writer to the Hebrews says ‘anyone who lives on milk, being still an infant, is not acquainted with the teaching about righteousness. But solid food is for the mature, who by constant use have trained themselves to distinguish good from evil.’ (Heb 5:13-14)
The process of weaning us spiritually from milk to solids is often not pleasant. When we’re first saved, it feels as though we live in a haze of wellbeing and a glow of grace. God seems to answer our every prayer and provide evidence upon evidence of His blessing and benevolence. But there comes a period, often known as the ‘dark night of the soul’, when we no longer feel God’s presence and can even doubt His love. Well-meaning people may tell us that if we’re no longer feeling close to God, it’s not God who has moved and we can become extremely worried, anxious and even despairing. Perhaps, though, all that is happening is that God is weaning us. He does not want neurotic dependency on Him; He is looking for child-like trust which will follow Him even when we cannot see where He is going. Is 45:15 talks of the God who hides Himself, and sometimes in those dark times, it’s not that we’ve moved away from God or that God has actually moved away, but that there is a weaning, a denial, a waiting period which we find tremendously difficult to understand but which is designed to help us to trust. God promises that He will never leave us or forsake us (Heb 13:5), but there will come a time in every Christian’s life when we have to believe that promise by faith, rather than because of our feelings or because of the visible things we can see. Just as the baby may have to wait longer than it wants for its meal and then be given food it would really rather not have to digest, so too God may make us wait longer than we want for His answers or bring circumstances into our lives that don’t seem at all good, but He is looking to shape us into the image of His Son and bring us to maturity.
Maturity means we turn to God, having nowhere else to go (see Jn 6:67-68); we nestle into His arms; we rest in contentment in Him even when we have no idea what to do about the storms that rage all around, even when we are as confused and as worn out as that screaming baby.
Humility, Satisfaction & Contentment
This morning’s sermon looked at Ps 131, a psalm which deals with the topics of humility, satisfaction and contentment, qualities which are sorely in need in today’s acquisitive, dissatisfied society. Its simplicity (only three verses long) may cause us to skip over its truths, but we need to linger here because these are such important topics in a world where arrogance, dissatisfaction and frustration seem to dominate.
The psalmist’s heart is not proud nor his eyes haughty. (Ps 131:1) Pride is one of the deadliest of all sins, but is often commended nowadays in the guise of ambition. Pride was at the heart of Satan’s downfall (Is 14:13-14) and many proverbs comment on how pride goes before a fall (Prov 16:18, 29:23). Paul reminded the Corinthians that arrogance can easily lead to our downfall (1 Cor 10:23) and Jesus told a parable about a proud Pharisee and a humble tax collector to illustrate that we must never allow self-righteousness to replace dependence on God (see Luke 18:9-14). The reason pride is so dangerous is that it steers us away from God and makes us believe that we can manage adequately without Him, thus creating an illusory reality which has no real substance.
The psalmist freely admits that he doesn’t know everything and that some things are beyond his understanding or his comprehension. Nowadays, that view is highly unpopular as we seek to increase our knowledge and understanding (no bad thing in itself), but we must understand that there will always be things we can’t fathom (see Deut 29:29, Job 42:3). Paul reminds the Corinthians that now we only know in part (see 1 Cor 13:12); we have to ‘surrender the hunger to say you must know/Have the courage to say “I believe”’, as Michael Card puts it in his song ‘God’s Own Fool.’
The psalmist likens himself to the contented state of a weaned child at its mother’s breast (Ps 132:2). Weaning is not a particularly comfortable process, as babies often react against the unfamiliarity of solid food and cannot understand the parents’ motivation in moving them on from milk! We too often rage against God when things don’t go our way or answers to prayer aren’t immediately forthcoming, but (as C. H. Spurgeon said) ‘It is a blessed mark of growth out of spiritual infancy when we can forgo the joys which once appeared to be essential, and can find our solace in Him who denies them to us.’
Paul tells Timothy that godliness with contentment is great gain. (1 Tim 6:6) Contentment comes as we realise God is in control, no matter what the visible evidence around us may tell us. Contentment comes as we realise God is faithful and His love endures forever (Ps 136:1). Contentment comes as we realise God is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine (Eph 3:20). Contentment comes as we realise that God is working for the good of those who love Him and that nothing can separate us from His love. (Rom 8:28-39) We can lie down and sleep in peace because God makes us dwell in safety. (Ps 4:8) All we have to do, the psalmist reminds us, is ‘put your hope in the Lord both now and forevermore.’ (Ps 131:1)
June prayer topic
We don’t live in a vacuum, but in a world that desperately needs peace and godliness. Our prayers that God’s ways will prevail (over the manipulation and misuse of power in politics) are crucially important. All the politics we know in the natural realm require the exercise of power (usually either through the manipulation of force or the manipulation of words), but God’s kingdom operates in entirely different ways. Let’s pray for those who have authority over us, that they may learn to govern wisely and well so that we may live peaceful and quiet lives in all godliness and holiness. (1 Timothy 2:1-2)
Pray for:
- our local councillors (Charlotte Johnson, May Noble & Ralph Sixsmith) and all working with BMBC to help people in this area
- all those working to improve our community (the local Council, residents, voluntary groups and businesses)
- those involved in caring for families (GPs, healthcare workers, social services, nurseries and schools) to have wisdom in helping those in need, especially the vulnerable
- MPs and all in authority to govern wisely and to help the needy and marginalised in ways that reflect God’s heart.